10 Steps to Longer Sex: A Book for Men on Improving Pleasure and Delaying Ejaculation by Thomas Ryan

Author:Thomas, Ryan [Thomas, Ryan]
Language: eng
Format: epub, azw, pdf
Publisher: UNKNOWN
Published: 2016-08-19T16:00:00+00:00

Step 7: Tie Her Arousal to Your Comfort

HOMEWORK: Watch Listen to porn. I know, I said not to earlier. And I was being honest before too. This is more advanced homework after you’ve first gotten in touch with your body and arousal without external stimulation like porn, photos, gifs, or sound bits. External stimuli take you out of your body and experience, which is why your body can be reactive to sex through involuntary ejaculation.

The other negative to watching porn, is that you may have tied your own orgasm to her being at the height of her pleasure. Usually, what happens in porn is the woman starts saying “Oh god, oh yea!! Give it to me!” when the guy is about to cum. Then she opens wide as if that’s her only source of nutrition and swallows it like it’s an elixir of immortality.

This is naturally going to get a guy highly aroused, and if you are like I used to be, I used to cum pretty much whenever my partner was saying “Oh god, oh yea! Give it to me! I’m gonna cum!”….and then I’d cum. Fuck. It’s because her sounds have been anchored to your orgasm! You hear the porn star saying those things as you’re ejaculating. So when your partner starts saying those things, your body naturally starts to react the same way as when you’re watching porn.

You become like Pavlov’s dog. Pavlov rings a bell at dinner time and feeds the dog. Then, every time Pavlov rings the bell, the dog drools. But now, the woman is Pavlov and the bell is her sounds of ecstasy… and you’re drooling from your dick.

Here’s a cool method to switch that around. She wants that elixir of immortality. But you’re not going to give it to her. She has to cum for you first. This frame of mind has a bit of a power dynamic to it, but is one tool to throw in your toolbox. You can’t tell her this though. If you tell her, “You’ve got to cum for me first”, it has the reverse effect. She’ll either not cum as a way to say, “don’t tell me what to do”, or she’ll feel anxiety, and not cum. Have this frame of mind of “you don’t deserve my cum until you cum for me”, but keep it to yourself.

As an aside, you don’t have to be in the headspace of “I will only cum when she cums.” You can cum whenever you want. This is more so a play on power. You essentially take her pleasure off the pedestal, and put your cum up there instead, in a little golden chalice, and you only give it to her when you feel she deserves it.

Also, pay close attention to your emotions when you play with this in your mind…are you feeling confident about being in the position of power and that she isn’t worthy of your cum until you say so? Or are you secretly thinking “ew…why would she want that? Women don’t like that sort of thing.

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